Blessed are those who are pleasant to live with!
Home should be the safest place in the world. Safe from physical harm, of course, but also from trash-talking and unpleasant interactions.
That means safety for everyone, not just those with power and authority.
Often, parents and children say and do things to the family they would never do to their friends and classmates.
Can you see yourself pointing to the poster rather than nagging about poor attitudes again and again and again and again? (Been there, done that!)
Boundaries reduce confusion and build character.
Families (and workplaces) thrive on consistency and knowing what is expected of them. As caring adults, we must be careful not to say one thing and model another. If we are cranky and lose our temper frequently, it teaches things to our children;
- Fear-Stay out of our way. We have all the power and demand obedience. (Never a good choice for a safe and harmonious home)
- Permission– We can be as cranky and rude as we want. (as long as no one catches us)
- Example- “Well, you yelled at me, so I can yell at my sister”
- Confusion-“Wait a minute, you can be rude, but I can’t? That makes little sense.
Assurance of Comfort and Safety
Actions speak louder than words, but words can be deadly to the hearts and minds of the family. Gentle reminders of “house rules” can be life-changing for all who see and act on the words- Blessed are those who are pleasant to live with.
The courteous and happier family members will delight you when they and you are reminded to be pleasant to live with.
PS: If you want more guidance on teaching your family to assume personal responsibility, please go to www.KidsChoresAndMore.com
You will be glad you did.
Alyssa –
Cindy, MDCA